Aindow Therapy is a proficient practice dedicated to assisting individuals in the process of rebuilding following significant life crises.
Systemic approaches help both individuals and families in overcoming life's challenges through supportive and meaningful conversations.
This approach recognizes that significant life changes often impact not just the individual but also their family, friends, and community.

Aindow Therapy and Systemic Solutions
By examining interconnected dynamics, we aim to uncover the underlying patterns that contribute to emotional distress and facilitate healing.
Our therapeutic process emphasizes collaboration and empathy, creating a safe space for clients to explore their thoughts and feelings while gaining insights into their relational patterns.
Engaging in meaningful dialogue allows clients to articulate their experiences, reflect on their emotions, and explore new perspectives.
Through conversations, we create an environment where clients feel heard and validated, paving the way for self-discovery and growth.
Support for Couples
We provide a safe space to explore the dynamics of your partnership, uncover underlying narratives, and find new pathways to intimacy.
By encouraging open and honest communication, we help individuals identify obstacles, challenge unhelpful beliefs, and develop constructive strategies for moving forward.
Why Choose Us?
Quiet, rural location on a family farm ensuring confidentiality and annonymity
Option for On-Line sessions allowing you more freedom
Personalized care with a small client load
Led by Dr. Nichola Aindow, combining clinical expertise with practical insights into conflict and resilience
Holistic approach addressing mental, emotional, and physical health
We help clients with essential tools to navigate the normal challenges in life that are part of the human condition.
No medical referral required
How I Help
Examine family stories and inherited narratives that shape current behaviors.
Identify the impact of trauma, grief, and unspoken expectations.
Explore the roles you’ve assumed within your family and their influence upom your relationships.
Support you in realising emotional burdens carried from childhood into adulthood.
The power of conversation as a facilitator for change
Transformative processes
enables clients to navigate life-changing events with greater clarity
confidence to promote deeper connections with others
enhance overall well-being
It all begins with a conversation…
…and a safe space to reflect on your experiences
Martial Systemic Therapy (M.S.T)
When language and words are not an option…
it becomes even more important to understand how to transmit power, strength and control.
A martial mindset can teach us how to reduce conflict to foundational elements:
How to communicate strength
How to command space
How to recognise and control emotions
How to manage reactions optimally
A Specialised Program
Martial Systemic Therapy (M.S.T)
Designed to develop conflict management skills through structured, physical exercises. These exercises are specifically tailored to draw out and enhance practical skills in emotional regulation, communication, and embodied awareness.
M.S.T is based on extensive PhD research and combines the principles of systemic therapy with over 20 years of martial arts and conflict management experience.
Through these physical practices, participants learn actionable strategies for navigating everyday conflicts, transforming confrontation into opportunities for growth.
Our services include:
Private Coaching: Focusing on improving conflict resolution abilities, resilience, and relational awareness through physical exercises and mindful practices.
Seminars & Workshops: Integrating systemic insights with hands-on conflict management techniques to promote healthier relationships and effective communication.
Corporate Training: Enhancing team dynamics, leadership skills, and resilience under pressure through practical exercises that foster systemic understanding.
Through experiential learning, participants develop a systemic perspective on conflict, enabling them to handle disputes more effectively, build stronger relationships, and cultivate resilience in both personal and professional settings.
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ABOUT ME
Dr. Nichola Jane Aindow is the founder of Aindow Therapy and Systemic Solutions.
With over 20 years of teaching martial arts, education in psychoanalytic studies and an extra education in family therapy, she utilizes her knowledge and experience to guide individuals through significant life changes.
With a firm grasp of knowledge and understanding of conflict both academically and physically, Nichola possesses a deep understanding of how to help people navigate the aftermath of life-changing events.
Nichola has a strong grounding in Brazilian Jiu-Jitsu (BJJ), having trained under notable figures in the art of conflict. She currently trains with Professor Paul Hartley (Leao Marinho BJJ) in London and has previously trained in Muay Boran under Grand Master Marco DeCesaris in Rome. Her connection to great minds in martial arts has enhanced her approach to therapy, providing her with unique insights into conflict resilience and discipline.
As a former British champion and competitor in the World Championships in Thailand, Nichola has taught students of all ages and skill levels. By integrating her expertise in therapy with her martial arts training, she empowers clients to embrace change, develop coping strategies, and achieve their personal goals, fostering both mental and physical well-being.
Deeply interested in the art of dialogue, she hosts her own podcast, where she explores the principles of resilience in the face of adversity and change. Through engaging conversations with experts and thought leaders, Nichola explores various strategies and insights that empower individuals to navigate life's challenges effectively. The podcast serves as a platform for sharing valuable knowledge and inspiring listeners to embrace change, develop coping mechanisms, and build a more resilient mindset.
Nichola is curently writing a book on systemic and martial principles called Conflict Undressed.







Services
Individual Therapy Sessions
700,-
Group Courses, Private/Buisnesses
Groups of 4 or more
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We are dedicated to normalizing the human experiences and challenges that are inherent to life.
Our mission is to enhance self-knowledge and resilience through meaningful dialogue, collaboration, and the articulation of empowering new narratives.